Parents aren’t perfect V
So after I explained the parents’ approach and attitude towards most -if not all- our brilliant ideas/decisions. Let’s get back to how we are less susceptible to change as we age. And how we reach the final conclusion/point of equilibrium with our daily struggles as we carry them with us along the years.
Parenting is definitely a hard job, it’s a responsibility that sometimes dictates a certain type of action. And it’s not getting easier because now generation gaps are formed on smaller time intervals, of years as opposed to decades. And parents aren’t used yet to the fast-paced ever-changing nature of these days, and I would say they have to try to keep up but it’s not as easy because it might be over their capacity. As I mentioned before, we are “less susceptible to change”.
As I stated in the 4th part, our parents treatment is based on the collective of “final conclusions”, which results in the well-known attitude “I’m older than you, I know better.” Which is true, but to an extent. Knowing more or better is not an excuse to take full control of your children’s lives, because new things always enter the courses of their lives as well as the parents’. Access is quite much the same for both adults and kids. Yet children will be more interactive to these new entries while adults will approach cautiously. And if they don’t see there’s a benefit behind it or that it needed to much effort or understanding to adapt and receive that benefit fully, adults will most probably decline and stick to their own old ways. At this point the first crack in the gaps between them is created. And in disagreements or arguments, a parent’s argument would be “Listen to me, I know what’s best.” while a kid’s argument “You know nothing.”
What both parties need, is an extra layer of understanding, and an extra filter of tolerance and patience. For the parents to try to see things through the eyes of their kids and try not to repeat the same arguments, same excuses or same reasoning. The kids have to listen more to their parents, take in their advice, take note of what seems to be criticism and learn to pinpoint what their parents are trying to deliver and negate any worries the parents think the kids are unaware of.