I stumbled upon this Huffington Post‘s post (heh) while scrolling my facebook timeline. While its title says 23 signs you’re “secretly” an introvert, I don’t think me being an introvert is a secret at all. I do consider myself an introvert, I’m proud of it and more importantly I love it. Some might argue that people shouldn’t be defined or divided as intro/extroverts because it’s situational. I agree to an extent, it is OK to be labelled as such as long as you know what pros and cons this label brings and how you can use and deal with them. I also like to mention that nobody’s a 100% introvert or extrovert, there’s this personality test (called Myers-Briggs test if I remember right) that gives you a percentage of how much are you an intro/extrovert. If I remember right again I think I scored something around 60% introvert and 40% extrovert. So basically people have both characteristics in them, they only lean towards one or the other. They just do both at different levels, they might go deep in one but not as deep with the other.
Anyway, back to Huffington Post’s post. They listed 23 signs that would tell you if you’re an introvert. I’m gonna list them here with personal comments. Here we go…
1- You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
True, I think it’s pointless. With a person whom you just met and you probably won’t meet again it’s pointless and I always try to minimize it. It’s different with people I think are interesting or impressive (in my point of view of course), with those people I’m always curious about the little unimportant details because I want to find out what makes them interesting or impressive (it’s all in the little details, Sherlock taught me that :D). Also it’s better if we have previously engaged in small talk that went well.
I didn’t use to do any small talk but at some point in college I challenged myself to try and learn to engage in small talk because I spend a lot of time around people and if there’s no conversation going it’s really awkward and I can’t just sit there or play with my phone or take out a book and read. I got the drift of it but I didn’t like it one more bit.
2- You go to parties, but not to meet people.
Yeah, I usually stick to people I know or just wander around (which can be quite creepy to those who don’t know me) watching people do what they do. Going to a complete stranger and saying hi out of the blue is not really an action I’d take. It’s easier if they’re with someone I already know and want to say hi to them. It’s also easier if I have previous knowledge of that person.
So I’m not really able to go to a girl who for example looks pretty and just introduce myself. Yeaaah, I don’t believe you movies.
3- You often feel alone in a crowd.
Not that it’s a bad feeling, I actually prefer to get some alone time even if I’m in a crowded place/event. Concerts aren’t really my thing, I don’t remember willingly going to one. Just one or two maybe by chance.
4- Networking makes you feel like a phony.
This is definitely a hit! Most of the time I don’t care but other times it feels like a burden to respond to something when I’m not feeling the urgent need to do so. But I give it some priority because it’s where most of my overall presence is (which is kinda sad, hehe).
5- You’ve been called “too intense”.I don’t recall getting called that directly but, I do appreciate an intelligent intellectual conversation, something that’s thought provoking and deep.
6- You’re easily distracted.
If you said that to my face I’d probably deny it without thinking but I admit it’s true. I’ve been and still working on it.
7- Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
Although I’ve had too much downtime in the last year and I hate it so much sometimes but that’s just my 40% extrovert part. Two days ago my older brother told me “I’m surprised how can you survive so much time at home. If I were you I’d have killed myself months ago!”. Well, this can be a merit that deserves a thumbs up no?
8- Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
I’m not really the person who likes to be under the spot light. But if I had to choose between giving a speech in front of 500 people or mingling with them, I’d definitely choose the speech and ditch the mingling.
9- When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench not in the middle.
Obviously the writer of the post have no idea how crowded the Egyptian transport is. Dude, finding an empty seat is a miracle! Who am I to deny such divine gift?
10- You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
Guilty, your honor. I’m socially exhausted if I attend two different events with two different social circles in one week, that why I balance it out by ditching an outing for a third circle. Then regret it afterwards.
11- You’re in a relationship with an extrovert.
HAH! You wish! -.-
12- You’d rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
Nope, no not at all. I’m interested in all sorts of random things.
13- You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
I actually don’t know. Haven’t been on any shows of that type before. The closest thing I could think of is lectures maybe? If this is the same thing then yes, I usually avoid participation.
14- You screen all your calls, even from friends.
Yes, I don’t usually answer the phone if I’m doing something that isn’t connected with the caller. I could be hard to reach at times but I usually call back, if I don’t call back then something is wrong with me (or, I…umm…forgot).
15- You notice details that others don’t.
I like to think that I do, I am observant. But lately I have this recurring thought that it’s not that special because people do notice stuff and don’t really say anything about it so you never know who noticed what.
16- You have a constantly running inner monologue.
Monologue? Bitch please! It’s a fucking convention of my multi-selves in there!
17- You have low blood pressure.
I honestly don’t know, hehe. If it IS true though, I’m glad it’s not too low to cause me any health problems.
18- You’ve been called an “old soul” since you 20’s.
I am in my 20’s and I did get called that, thank you! If it signifies anything, it’s wisdom (Tadaaa).
19- You don’t feel “high” from your surroundings.
I’m not positively influenced because my surroundings give off a happy aura. I have to feel it within. If I’m in a concert and everyone’s jumping, screaming and stuff, don’t expect me to do the same. It has to be one of those few special musicians that I love, otherwise I’d just be enjoying my time with the jumping/screaming friends I’m with.
20- You look at the big picture.
Absolutely YES! And it’s both: a gift and a curse. It has caused me lots of problems and still is. Not that I’m more interested in ideas and the bigger picture over facts and little details but I’m happier when I know how it all fits in the bigger frame.
21- You’ve been told to “come out of your shell”.
That would be the most polite way of saying it. 😀 I am usually the one getting inquiries of the type “Why are you silent?” “Where were you when we….?” “Why didn’t you say something when….?” etc.
22- You’re a writer.
I do have a tendency in communication through text than in speech. I even wrote a post about that two years ago! Here’s a link: “Better read than spoken”.
23- You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
Yeah, as it’s been mentioned before I do have a limited capacity of putting myself out there and being around others. If I don’t get some alone time I get upset and it becomes obvious that I’m bored and that I want to be somewhere else. I sometimes even feel that way at home, just from too much activity between my mother and brothers.
That’s all folks!